Everything is Virgin vs. Chad.

I can’t read the whole post¹, but I do think the girlfriend’s “compliment” is very insulting. More than 90% of men would. That is because these days women are even more hypocritical about dating than men. And that’s because they can be — they have more choice, and far more choice than they used to (which, by and large, is a good thing).

But that abundance of choice has fashioned a lot of women overall into worse people. Not all of the time, and not every woman. But a hell of a lot of them and a hell a lot of the time. No one wants to hear this but it’s true.

What the gf said is an insult because it implies that the man is a second (or 10th) choice, only good enough to have something long-term with when the woman/gf was done messing around with “bad boys” who are more attractive to her but mistreat her. Only then, after getting tired of that, did she settle for some chump who wasn’t good enough to get with her when she was in her wild phase. And that behavior is in fact true of many women. I’ve seen it myself quite often.

So indeed, if my partner said something like this to me (she never would) I’d strongly consider leaving her. As it is in fact a huge fucking insult. And yes, she reads this blog so ain’t no secrets here. If I said something similar to her, I’d hope she’d consider the same because it’s a big fuck you. It is demeaning and insulting.

That gf, without meaning to, set off a nuclear bomb in her relationship that it probably should not recover from; if she still finds the bad boys more attractive, she should go be with them for her and her boyfriend’s benefit. They’d both probably end up happier in the end.

1. Here is the post on Reddit.

How do you deal with being attracted to younger women?

These comments are nuts. And that post title is written as if being attracted to someone younger is some sort of terminal fucking disease. So oddball. Perhaps because I only tend to hang out or want to be around atypical people no matter their age, I’ve never found any of this insanity they are talking about to be true. And here, I am considering “attracted” as friends too, not just romantically.

If I were single, I’d date anyone 22 and up without a second thought¹. Personality matters so, so much more to me than age (as long as everyone is of legal age). And shared interests, attraction. The rest is fairly irrelevant to me.

Look, people don’t become a different species when they get older. I find this idea so damn weird. Like, come on, I enjoy most of the same things now as I did at 20. I’m not some completely different person. And I’ve found that is true of most people. Or at least the ones I’m interested in getting to know².

I suspect what’s happening in that thread is men desperately white-knighting in an attempt to not seem creepy, where “creepy” has been wholly defined by feminists attempting dating market competition elimination — and succeeding in spades.

Me, I don’t give a fuck. Obviously.