Day: January 4, 2025, 6:58 PM
Disag
I’m not sure what it means, but I think it’s interesting that my very strong streak of disagreeableness made me much more attractive to women than if I’d been exactly like I am except for leaning agreeable.
People are strange.
The redpill dudes aren’t exactly right that it’s better to be a jerk. That is not in fact the optimum male config that most women find attractive. However, many women do (oddly) mistake jerks for the confident. I’m not a jerk, I think. But I am both confident and extremely disagreeable and that historically has allowed me to punch above my weight (and height) with women.
Not a Friend
Why do people think anyone at work is a friend? That’s almost never true. The CIO here definitely is not and absolutely 100% did know about the layoff in advance. I guarantee it.
That said, I’d be charging them like crazy for repairing this mess they left themselves in. A few years ago, a company I’d worked for a decade prior contacted me about fixing some complex scripts they had moved around and attempted to change and could not get to function any longer. I’d created those as something temporary a developer was supposed to consolidate into an actual fully-thought-out reporting application later on but never did (of course).
They’d brought in several consultants who could not duplicate what I’d done as it involved (among quite a few other things) complex manipulations of obscure Windows permissions in a very specific way to achieve what they wanted.
Anyway, they requested that I fix these scripts and add some related new features for free. I said no way and quoted $250 an hour, 10 hours minimum1, paid in advance. They wouldn’t agree to that so I told them good luck.
Fine. I heard it never got fixed.
Dele
Did you get used to the changes that comes with managing / directing?
I’ve been doing it for a long time and I’m still not accustomed to it. The very hardest part of management is willingly handing off something to someone junior that you know you can do in 15 minutes only to have it take them two entire weeks to implement. Even then, typically the task or project still inevitably has to be revised seven times before it’s ready to release to production.
Delegating like this is hard but necessary. Otherwise, the junior team members never learn anything and never advance in capability or project leadership competence.
But I still am not great at handing off. Not as much as I should.
Sis Mid
I want to see this film but it is apparently available nowhere, not even the seven seas. Please release.
Friedman
The idea that all kinks are the result of trauma is just plainly and obviously wrong. The kinkiest girl I ever knew in my life (way, way too kinky for me1) self-admittedly had a “vanilla, boring” childhood, had never been sexually assaulted, described her parents as “amazing and perfect” and had many friends. And this is not unusual from what I’ve seen.
All that Dr. Debra Soh is demonstrating that she is probably prudish and anti-kink in general. (And I say that as a person who is not 100% vanilla but absolutely no one would describe as into kinks and the like.)
IRBad
Luck of the Draw
This is not about sex but applies to sex too: you can really increase your luck by deliberately putting yourself in places and situations where you are more likely to get lucky.
Most of the reason I’ve had success is that I just tried a lot of things, went to a lot of places, bought a lot of different stocks, talked to a lot of girls. People sometimes make fun of me for my attempts to preserve optionality. But it’s not about avoiding commitment or being wishy-washy, as they imagine.
It’s about when the chance of a lifetime is right there in front of you, that you first, notice it (many people do not), and that you have the freedom to act on it.
Put yourself where the action is and better things are more likely to happen to you. Easy principle, though harder to do than say. Still worth it, though.
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Companies are making a string of intentional decisions to devalue workers, particularly Gen X (those between the ages of 44 and 59). Because we cost the most as we know what the hell we’re doing.