Also, I am not sure what it means that when I went from a low-status man to a high-status man (or at least far higher status), it made me more resentful about how women treated me in the past, not less.

Now that I do get special treatment even though I accept it because it helps me, I kind of also hate it because all I can think is, “When I was fat and schlubby, this woman would not even have seen me as human.”

So, sure, I’ll take the DMV lady doing a buncha work on my behalf and waiving fees left and right because she thinks I’m hot. But it also kinda makes me angry on behalf of past me.

That’s the thing, though. 99.99% of women do not show clear interest, even with guys they claim to like a lot. We have to interpret vague hints that are impossible to discern from mere friendliness. And then if we get it wrong, we are accused of harassment and misinterpreting being nice. Women want to play it both ways and so far, they have done that.

And no, this isn’t men’s fault. Be clearer and this would become far less of an issue.