Then Now

How did you feel about your mom as a teenager and how do you feel about her now?

As a teenager I hated her, but not because of the usual teenage angst reasons. No, I despised her because she was a negligent and mildly abusive alcoholic who had fucked up her own life in very preventable ways and blamed everyone else for it. I vowed not to be like her. And I succeeded in that.

Now, I no longer hate her1. I still think she was terrible and could’ve done better but I have more understanding now.

My mom was someone like me with a large ego and extremely high intelligence2 who thought she was special — but the difference between us is that she never did anything to demonstrate that she was exceptional. She just thought people should recognize how amazing she was with no achievements to her name. In that respect, she was sort of like the incels who sit around in their basements making no mark on the world and expect to have supermodel girlfriends and plush jobs fall in their laps (in the former case, literally).

She thought she deserved the world, did nothing to achieve that, and was bitter because it didn’t just happen as if by magic. Very incel-like, as I said above.

I have some sympathy for her plight because in a different world I might’ve ended up like her. Not too likely but at least I can see the path. She married my dad at 19 to rebel against her parents, got pregnant (with me) and the bitterness and regret followed from there.

And after that, instead of actually bettering her life, she decided she wanted to become a party girl at age 29. And that went about as well as you’d expect.

She died as a result of her drug use and alcoholism, much diminished, at 64. Her life was bleak throughout and the only joy she got was from drinking, I think.

I don’t miss her and I feel pity for what and who she became.

  1. She’s been dead for a few years now.
  2. Before she destroyed her brain with alcohol, IQ in the 160-170 range.

Interest

It is fucking crazy.

But these days among a large cohort of Gen Z (probably the majority), any flirting is considered harassment. Again, that is ANY flirting. And people wonder why the birth rate is low. These are people who just have no idea what to do with life. They are sad and pitiful and seem content to stay that way.

Storied

One of the reasons I love movies and TV shows and thinking about how they’re made — the immense care and craft that goes into them — is I spent so much of my life with others telling me how my story would go. What my limitations were and how I deserved nothing because I was weak and terrible. That’s the tale they had me signed up for against my wishes.

I like seeing how you can take control of the narrative, seize the diegesis and shape it to your own will. All the world’s a stage and all that. It’s a cliché but it’s also true.

Movies and TV shows taught me how I could direct my own story. And I did just that.

Abysses

I knew it was probably over for a while as a civilization when people I’d previously believed to be perfectly reasonable began to tell me how smartphones were “more convenient” and that they spent most of their days gazing into that abyss.

Willingly.

We’ve never had to deal with a cognitohazard like this new hell that is the combination of smartphones and social media. It’s the most transformative event to occur to humans since widespread literacy, but far less constructive. We’ve created addicts who can’t even recognize they have a problem, and who attempt to gaslight you into believing you’re the malcontent if you object.

We aren’t going to conquer the fucking galaxy like this.

Space Com

I agree with that, with some caveats. Communism is contra human nature; space travel is contra human biology. Which is easier to change, human nature or human biology?

The future is vast and our successors will find out. Probably will be changing a bit of both, to be fair.

Shod

Pretty insightful into the affliction shared across worldviews notionally in conflict. In reality, it is a dearth of will, an absence of the human spirit that took us from scrabbling in the mud to jetting through the sky.

I want nothing to do with any of that.

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