A lot of women are extremely vexed that men who can are becoming as picky/choosy as they are. But it boils down to that women think they want to be treated like men, but really they want all the benefits of being a man with none of the enormous drawbacks or responsibilities. That’s just how humans work in general, to be fair. Women are not unique here but are doing worse than men in dealing with how the modern era has changed the calculation. In dating for many years, women were used to having the upper hand unquestionably and now do not, at least not 100% of the time1. And as the male backlash against feminism showed, that loss of near-total dominance2 is hard to get used to.
Up until 10-15 years ago, 99% of men had to just accept whatever woman came along who showed any interest at all. Having standards is not a thing we were allowed. Now that many of us do have standards and won’t just accept table scraps, it has caused much consternation and gaslighting among women.
And a lot of the decline in women’s mental health (and health in general) is due to social media3. The ubiquity of it and that they are more susceptible to it has really fucked them up and over. It’s sad to see. And I mean that sincerely. I wish it were better for them, truly. It’s a huge net loss for society how social media has reduced women’s cognitive capacity and ability to engage with reality 4.
- More like 70% of the time now.
- Women dominate the dating market because they are the choosers.
- Which tell them they can be an obese, uneducated bottom 20% woman and still score a top 1% man, and it’s a cosmic injustice if they do not.
- I’d be remiss to fail to note that Rush Limbaugh and Fox News did the same thing to many men, including my own grandfather.