It’s a strange time in gender relations. As a man, you’re supposed to treat women as fragile creatures with no agency at all and no ability (or wish) to make their own decisions and, simultaneously, to believe they are omnificent “girl bosses” who don’t need no help, dammit.

Those two view of women’s agency aren’t really compatible. I’m partnered, but I do understand men who are withdrawing completely and want nothing to do with any of that. It’s dangerous out there — and not just for women.