Couples fight about housework. Couples divorce about housework. Surely it would be easier if men just did more housework?

As I’ve pointed out before, women often have hugely, enormously unrealistic standards about housework that make no sense even in the context of a keeping a clean house.

And they also don’t count any labor that men do that’s not pushing a vacuum cleaner or washing dishes as “work.”

Not every woman, clearly. But many! Enough that I’ve been involved with two who did not count the vast amount of time I spent mowing the lawn, trimming bushes, cleaning gutters, taking care of the cars and such as “work.” According to them, “Men like that stuff” and, “It’s fun for you.”

Readers, I did not like it and it was not fun. I fucking hate lawn maintenance and house maintenance and now just refuse to do any of it (I pay people).

In one case I stopped mowing the lawn, taking care of the gutters, trimming bushes, hauling downed limbs, etc., and when my ex complained I said, “Oh, I thought you said that wasn’t work?”

That went over about as well as you’d expect. No one ever learns anything.

Am I a jerk for personally ignoring people that ping me in Teams with a mundane “Hi” ?

I do not give a single tiny little fuck about what your cultural norms are, if you think you’re trying to be polite or whatever other crap. If you hit me with just “hi” and nothing else I’m ignoring you for days. Perhaps forever (have done that before).

I do not have time to deal with that kind of thing in a chat application. Just tell me what you need. I’m not here for chitchat; I’m tryna work. Be concise, be clear and be quick. Otherwise: ignored.

What is something you dislike about being a dude?

You’re completely invisible (and disposable) unless a woman sees you as a threat for some reason, and then you’re a definite rapist harasser creep. That’s no matter if you’ve done absolutely nothing wrong other than occupying the same space she is, or you looked in her direction by accident.

That’s a pretty shit part of being a dude really.

When you include income tax, sales tax, property tax, vehicle tax and other various taxes, approximately 58% of my earned income goes to taxes¹. I just did the calculation.

That sure seems like a lot, doesn’t it? And in the US we get hit with about the same taxes as European countries and get much, much less for it. And it’s almost always lower quality, too.

Also seems like a bad deal.

1. This does not include capital gains.

I know it’s because I’m lucky enough to be in a high tax bracket, but it’s weird when you get paid and more of your income goes to taxes than you actually receive.

Kinda doesn’t seem fair when you consider how little billionaires are actually taxed relatively¹.

1. Yes, I know all the reasons/excuses for why this is the case.

The way some people be clownin’, you’d think circus auditions are happening 24/7.

I think I could’ve been a good to great scientist, but my inability to handle most practical math kept me out of that field.

It was for the better. I doubt I would’ve been happy in academia, especially now. But there must be a lot of people like me — kept out of fields in which they’d prosper because they can’t figure out the quadratic equation.

What is the male perspective/counterpoint to the female “mental load” or “emotional labour”?

Men don’t do emotional labor because to many women, any man showing any emotion (other than perhaps anger) is a huge and immediate turn-off that dooms you forever in her eyes.

Women police men’s emotions very heavily, more than other men do (after high school anyway). And men react to this logically enough by not showing any.