When you’re already with your dream woman, other options ring hollow and unappealing even if they throw themselves at you.
Try again next life, ladies. ๐
When you’re already with your dream woman, other options ring hollow and unappealing even if they throw themselves at you.
Try again next life, ladies. ๐
AITA for telling my vegan friend I donโt want to come over for Thanksgiving Dinner?
Because of a girl I was dating, I did a vegetarian (not vegan) Thanksgiving one year. The crucial point was we didn’t try to make anything that mimicked another food. And it helped that she was (like me) a good cook. She asked me if I’d be willing to try it and I think was surprised I said yes. (She would’ve been ok if I’d said no.) But shit, I’ll try anything that won’t wind up with me in prison, a buncha people dead or Putin serving me a polonium pie.
I don’t remember what all we made but every bit of it was great. I didn’t miss the meat at all, though I’d not want to do a veggie Thanksgiving every year. I do recall we made some sort of nutty stuffing that was quite delectable.
You can do a lot with mushrooms and nuts, for sure.
Men do you actually care or find it more attractive if a woman wears heels, why or why not?
I despise heels. They look unnatural and those feminine cues do absolutely nothing for me. It just screams incapability. If the shit hits the fan, I need any woman with me to be able to run.
Nope, do not like heels.
Career advice: find your superpower, if you have one, and capitalize on that. To be fair, that only works for a few. Mine is understanding and making use of complex information very, very quickly.
Failing that, the best strategy to pursue (I stole this from somewhere, but forget the origin) is to be okay to good in several disparate but related areas. Most of your peers won’t take the time and effort to do this and instead they’ll only be competent in one small area. This makes them limited. Even though I do in fact have a superpower, I’ve relied more on this “many skills” strategy as it’s more beneficial in my specific field. For instance apart from my technical skills I am good at these things, all of which I am not a “natural” at (that is, I had to learn them from scratch):
And learning none of this to a “good enough” level requires being a genius! Just perseverance. That’s the advantage of the latter strategy — it just takes some determination. It’s like working out in that if you devote a couple of extra hours a week to acquiring 3-4 of the above you’ll be far ahead of your competition. Anyone can do it if they want to and I can guarantee it’ll benefit them.
This is exactly what I did and it’s why I am where I am.
Why do men seem so much more desperate to find partners than women, generally speaking?
Contra what women tend to think, most men aren’t desperate — it’s just that they are the ones expected to do nearly everything to start and form a relationship. It’s all on men to face storms of rejection, being called a “creep” simply for existing and trying, and paying for dates, etc. It’s all on men.
Women could change this equilibrium but won’t, because on the surface it benefits them too much (though hurts them in ways they don’t acknowledge).
That’s Mike Vining. I met him a few times on Fort Bragg (now Fort Liberty) when I was a young paratrooper back in the 1990s. Very nice guy. He was the first member of Delta Force and he came by my unit a few times (right down the street from his office at the time).
Small world sometimes.
One of the worst interview experiences of my life.
Why subject yourself to this, even if you’re desperate? It’ll be a horrible place to work anyway. I’ve walked out of half a dozen interviews in my life, back when it was more common for them to be in person. I regret nothing; it was always the right call.
My favorite walk-out was when an interviewer attempted to antagonize me because I knew far more than he did. I stood up and said, “Well, I’m leaving. Wouldn’t want to work here.”
He acted all shocked and said, “You can’t just leave!”
I said, “Yes I can,” turned around and walked out of the conference room and right out the front door.
LOL. Respect yourself first or no one else will.
I do too, mostly. I don’t really like cities much and don’t enjoy walking in them. Even “dense” ones. I’m glad that the option exists where it does, but it’s not for me. If I had more of a choice, I’d live 20-30 minutes away from a reasonably-sized city on 5-20 acres of land.
But ain’t no fiber out there.
I joke about being galactic overlord and things like that sometimes and sure, I’d do that job for a few billions years as a hobby. But I don’t really care about power. What I’d rather have is money.
Cold, hard, untraceable currency please. And a lot of it.
I have trouble recognizing male programmers because they all dress the same, are all overweight to obese, all have the same scruffy poorly-trimmed beard, and all wear glasses 1.
This is a real problem at in-person work functions.